A lot of people I know have told me that they are disturbed by the idea of anything near their asshole, so I ask them “why?” Most of the answers have been either it’s weird or gross. Which I can completely understand, shit comes out of there, it’s not the most pleasant place to be thinking about or wanting anything up or around there. But it was brought to my attention a few years ago that the male g-spot is in the asshole. The prostate to be exact. Now I know a lot of guys are completely opposed to the idea of their partner sticking their fingers up there because they think that “it’s gay.” First of all, liking your butthole poked does not mean you’re gay because you’re not attracted to the same sex and you don’t want a person of the same sex sticking their anything up your ass. (P.S There’s nothing wrong with being gay anyway) Secondly, why are you even questioning your sexuality in the first place? YOU’RE G-SPOT IS IN YOUR ASS. IT’S OK! If it feels good what’s the big deal?
So if you or your partner are curious, where do you find the lovely male g-spot? The male g-spot is located behind the anal wall in the direction of the belly button, underneath the bladder. The prostate is the size of a walnut and is very sensitive so if you’re trying to find it you need to be careful. Be as gentle as you can and watch not to poke. For girls who know what it feels like to be fingered too aggressively, you can understand how unpleasurable it can be. The easiest way to simulate the male g-spot is to press gently on what some may call the “gooch” ( the area between the balls and the asshole). But if you want to explore more you can (and I recommend using lube while you do this) lightly rub the asshole and slowly insert your fingers into it. Paying attention to the g-spot will intensify the orgasm.
For those of you on the receiving end of getting anally penetrated, if you are worried about some embarrassing shitty situations you can prepare yourself by douching or getting an enema (These options are not necessary but a personal choice. I myself have never needed these). Just like before having vaginal intercourse you need to do some foreplay. Get that hole in the mood by using your fingers, toys or tongue. Your anus has a ton of nerves in it so it does feel pretty awesome. Don’t be afraid to be generous with the lube, start off slow and find the right position. I find it can be fun trying to figure this out with your partner. Relaxation is a very important part of being anally penetrated. When you relax, your sphincter will loosen up and it will make it easier for both partners. Sometimes adding some clitoral stimulation can intensify the pleasure of anal sex.
Everyone is different and you have to get to know what you and your partner like and dislike. Some of my friends have said they’ve tried it and hated it. Some have been so scared and then finally try it and love it. Like I said. We’re all different. But personally, it depends on what kind of mood I’m in. Sometimes I’m really wanting butt stuff and then other times I’m not. It also has to do with my partner and if they know what they’re doing (so read my blog and I’ll teach you). I have found for myself that lube is a life changer. We all know to never go in dry and your anus has zero natural lubrication. So yeah, bring out the lube and rub it on that hole. Lick it, rub it, just be nice to the butthole.
Now readers, I don’t want you to feel pressure or judgment if you don’t want to try butt stuff. Do what you feel comfortable with. It is your body and you have the right to say no to what you don’t feel comfortable doing. All I’m saying is don’t knock it till you try it.
Butt stuff doesn’t need to be a scary or disgusting thing. If it can intensify your orgasm and make sex more pleasurable, why not go for it. You don’t need to be afraid to try new things. As long as it’s consensual, sex can be whatever you want it to be. Just embrace new and different things and make sure you’re happy and comfortable.