Don’t be afraid of the butthole

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A lot of people I know have told me that they are disturbed by the idea of anything near their asshole, so I ask them “why?” Most of the answers have been either it’s weird or gross. Which I can completely understand, shit comes out of there, it’s not the most pleasant place to be thinking about or wanting anything up or around there. But it was brought to my attention a few years ago that the male g-spot is in the asshole. The prostate to be exact. Now I know a lot of guys are completely opposed to the idea of their partner sticking their fingers up there because they think that “it’s gay.” First of all, liking your butthole poked does not mean you’re gay because you’re not attracted to the same sex and you don’t want a person of the same sex sticking their anything up your ass. (P.S There’s nothing wrong with being gay anyway)  Secondly, why are you even questioning your sexuality in the first place? YOU’RE G-SPOT IS IN YOUR ASS. IT’S OK! If it feels good what’s the big deal?

So if you or your partner are curious, where do you find the lovely male g-spot? The male g-spot is located behind the anal wall in the direction of the belly button, underneath the bladder. The prostate is the size of a walnut and is very sensitive so if you’re trying to find it you need to be careful. Be as gentle as you can and watch not to poke. For girls who know what it feels like to be fingered too aggressively, you can understand how unpleasurable it can be. The easiest way to simulate the male g-spot is to press gently on what some may call the “gooch” ( the area between the balls and the asshole). But if you want to explore more you can (and I recommend using lube while you do this) lightly rub the asshole and slowly insert your fingers into it. Paying attention to the g-spot will intensify the orgasm.

For those of you on the receiving end of getting anally penetrated, if you are worried about some embarrassing shitty situations you can prepare yourself by douching or getting an enema (These options are not necessary but a personal choice. I myself have never needed these).  Just like before having vaginal intercourse you need to do some foreplay. Get that hole in the mood by using your fingers, toys or tongue. Your anus has a ton of nerves in it so it does feel pretty awesome. Don’t be afraid to be generous with the lube, start off slow and find the right position. I find it can be fun trying to figure this out with your partner. Relaxation is a very important part of being anally penetrated. When you relax, your sphincter will loosen up and it will make it easier for both partners. Sometimes adding some clitoral stimulation can intensify the pleasure of anal sex.

Everyone is different and you have to get to know what you and your partner like and dislike. Some of my friends have said they’ve tried it and hated it. Some have been so scared and then finally try it and love it. Like I said. We’re all different. But personally, it depends on what kind of mood I’m in. Sometimes I’m really wanting butt stuff and then other times I’m not. It also has to do with my partner and if they know what they’re doing (so read my blog and I’ll teach you). I have found for myself that lube is a life changer. We all know to never go in dry and your anus has zero natural lubrication. So yeah, bring out the lube and rub it on that hole. Lick it, rub it, just be nice to the butthole.

Now readers, I don’t want you to feel pressure or judgment if you don’t want to try butt stuff. Do what you feel comfortable with. It is your body and you have the right to say no to what you don’t feel comfortable doing. All I’m saying is don’t knock it till you try it.

Butt stuff doesn’t need to be a scary or disgusting thing. If it can intensify your orgasm and make sex more pleasurable, why not go for it. You don’t need to be afraid to try new things. As long as it’s consensual, sex can be whatever you want it to be. Just embrace new and different things and make sure you’re happy and comfortable.

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The lovely yeast infection

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Hello fellow readers! Sorry I haven’t posted in awhile, it’s been pretty busy for me the past few weeks with the holidays. I had a few weeks off work to go back to Kenora and visit with all the friends and family. I’ve also had a touch of writer’s block and haven’t been sure what to write about. But recently with all the amazing food, drinks and mild stress over the holidays, I felt like yeast infections have been a reoccurring topic with my friends and I.

Vaginal yeast infections are caused by an overgrowth of yeast in the vagina, symptoms of a yeast infection are:

  • Itching and irritation in the vagina and the tissues at the vaginal opening (vulva)
  • A burning sensation, especially during intercourse or while urinating
  • Redness and swelling of the vulva
  • Vaginal pain and soreness
  • Vaginal rash
  • Watery vaginal discharge
  • Thick, white, odor-free vaginal discharge with a cottage cheese appearance

 

Yeast infections don’t always occur from having sex. Here is a list that I got from healthline.com of causes of yeast infections:

  • antibiotics (they lower the amount of lactobacillus, or good bacteria, in the vagina)
  • pregnancy
  • uncontrolled diabetes
  • weak immune system
  • poor eating habits, including a lot of sugary foods
  • hormonal imbalance near your menstrual cycle
  • stress
  • lack of sleep

So before new years, I got strep throat and the first cause of yeast infections on the list provided is antibiotics ( which the doctor warns you about when they prescribe you antibiotics). I was put on penicillin for my strep throat and it gave me the worst yeast infection that I’ve had in awhile. It wasn’t the super nasty kind of yeast infection where your discharge smells or looks “cottage cheese-like”.  I mostly felt discomfort and the burning sensation when I peed. I’m sure most of you that have had yeast infections understand the discomfort and hate it. I tried to avoid getting one by eating lots of Activa yogurt which is known for all the probiotics that it has in it and tried to just use Canesten. But genetically I am prone to getting yeast infections:(  This was a piss off altogether because if you have sex while having a yeast infection your partner could get it, which could lead to the two of you swapping it back and forth for months. BEEN THERE DONE THAT. So not only was I pissed about being sick and my vagina feeling uncomfortable, I was mostly pissed that I shouldn’t have sex, nothing a little masturbation couldn’t fix but still, Amy gets grouchy when she doesn’t get laid. Anywho, the yeast infection lasted until I finished my penicillin.

So while I had the infection I used Canesten cream. Now Canesten comes in a few different forms.  There is:

  • 1 day combi-pak comfort tab
  • 3 day combi-pak comfort tab
  • 1 day combi-pak cream
  • 1 day cream
  • 3 day cream
  • 6 day cream
  • Canesoral comi-pak
  • Canesoral

I have tried a few different brands of yeast infection treatments and I find they all work the same for me. But everyone is different and everything will work differently for each person. I find I like the 6 day cream the best. How it works is, you put cream in an application and you shoot it up your vagina the same way you would a tampon. Now I put the cream in before bed so then I don’t have a mess of cream leaking out of my vagina during the day. I just find that it soothes my discomfort right away. Now if you don’t feel comfortable shooting cream up your vagina, you can take the oral pills and I found them to also be very effective and if you want some instant relief you can also just use the cream externally.

If you are looking for a more natural way of treating a yeast infection you can just eat a lot of yogurt but, what also works is soaking a tampon in tea tree oil or even plain yogurt. Make sure it is plain yogurt because the flavoured shit is not going to work. If you don’t want to use a tampon you can also buy the applicators used for the cream and fill one up with yogurt and shoot it up your vagina.

I have found that diet really affects how likely I am to get yeast infections. Personally, I love drinking beer and beer (usually being made of yeast can really imbalance your PH levels. So if you have a yeast infection, avoid beer or any kinds of sweet drinks. Vodka water lime is usually a safe bet.

If you do have a yeast infection, it’s not really something to worry about too much. They are easy to get and easy to get rid of. Just make sure you’re getting lots of sleep, eating appropriately and avoid having sex for about a three days to a week. If your yeast infection lasts for a long time and typical treatments aren’t working for you, you should consult your doctor because you may need a stronger form of medication.

Anyways my lovelies, hope all your holidays were enjoyable and full of sex. Please feel free to contact me if you have any suggestions on what I should post about. I’m always interested in researching new and different sexual topics.

Remember, stay safe, stay consensual and smile 🙂